Silencing Your Inner Critic

Silencing Your Inner Critic

I was curious to hear the other day, and in fact, I heard it twice from two different people, was that one of the challenges that they had when leading their team was that they were the youngest in the group.  I found this fascinating because it was obviously a...

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What mountain are you climbing?

What mountain are you climbing?

Anyone who knows me knows that I am not terribly athletic and I really baulk at anything that forces me to go UP in a steep ascent.However, it has become increasingly clear that my role as a coach is to help women climb their second mountain. And I know the way up...

read more
Are you too busy to read this?

Are you too busy to read this?

The irony of this blog is that the women who need it the most will be too busy to read it. The world seems to be speeding up...So much to do.So little time.And women have it worse for a number of reasons. Firstly, we have more neurons firing at any time than men yet...

read more

Do the Work…

"Do the work" she said. Which made perfect sense. If I wanted my business to be successful I had to "do the work". Work harder, be strategic, hustle, market, follow up, focus! Yet the advice came hot on the heals of - you are tired - physically, mentally,...

read more

5 Ideas for Self-Care September

Recognise that self-care is crucial and plan for itGive yourself permission to say No to requests from othersAim for progress not perfectionUse a strength in a new wayBe nice to yourself Self-care is not indulgent. At the most basic level we need to eat well,...

read more

Every Man Should Do This Course!

It’s not very comfortable being a white middle-class man in society at the moment, and I worried that Lead Like a Woman may just be more of the same. But I went home last night and said to my wife, every single leader, male and female should do this course! It was a...

read more

Ask For What You Need

It is hard not to be rocked by the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. It is difficult to fathom what could drive a successful, mature adult to such ends. I have no answers for you except to check-in on your strong friends, the ones that appear to have...

read more

I’m not into this sisterhood shit…

We went around the group one by one. Each of the 25 participants of the Women in Leadership Aspirant Program shared what they had gained from the previous three days. It is fairly typical that the women in the group are moved to tears at this part of the program....

read more

Outta the Box

Our brains are amazing super computers and most of us only use a tiny amount of it’s capacity. Unfortunately,  our brain is also very limited in it’s ability to process the millions of bits of information coming at it relentlessly. As a result we develop neural...

read more

Women in School Leadership – Who and what needs fixing?

This morning as I waited for an appointment, I flicked through the NESLI 2018 YEAR OF WOMEN IN SCHOOL LEADERSHIP white paper and sighed. Firstly, I think it is high time that this topic got some serious airplay and I am glad that the white paper...

read more

Tips for coping when disaster strikes

Recently, I chose not to sweat the small stuff and practice the art of being grateful - but not in the way you would expect. On the eve of Good Friday, my desktop computer went ppffftt - the power supply died and while I managed to send it by ambulance to Dr Gerry,...

read more

What being overwhelmed taught me about happiness

I am the kind of person that needs to know how things work - once. Show me how to fix my car, explain to me how social media marketing works, send me to a workshop to understand time management.  So when I was overwhelmed, I figured I better go do a course....

read more

Goals are the vitamin tablets of the self-help world!

Goals are the vitamin tablets of the self-help world! Apparently, the only benefit people get from vitamin supplements is very expensive wee. Anyone who has set a new year's resolution understands this metaphor. Traditional goals, just like vitamin tablets, rarely...

read more

Doing Ok, Thank you!

Last week I caught up with an old colleague, sparring partner, truth teller and friend. It’s not often you get all of these qualities rolled up into one person but he’s kinda special (just don’t tell him that, he’s already thinks he’s god-like!). I often describe...

read more

Moments of Collective Joy

"You know when you look across at a concert and you realise you're singing the same song at the same time with 2000 other people and that you're happy and the chances are that the 2000 people around you are happy as well?” These are moments of collective joy. In her...

read more

Has Facebook Killed the Annual Chistmas Newsletter?

December 12, 2017 |Jenny Cole Remember receiving these?? “What a busy year it's been in the Blogs household. This year one of my little darlings won the school talent quest, broke an arm and developed a cure for cancer. Her brother tried several new sports being...

read more

I’m NOT a Life Coach – OK?

When I was a teacher, I always hated introducing myself at social events like barbecues. I think there was some sort of shame around you're just a teacher. Then when I became a school principal, I rarely owned up to it because no one wanted to be the...

read more

Don’t try to fix me!!

I get a little annoyed by the self-help gurus and personal growth experts constantly telling us that we need to do something or be something more. Be more focused, be less anxious, be more time efficient, exercise more, set audacious goals and go after...

read more

Spreading Positivity

Spreading positivity – spread that stuff thick! Ok I get it… life’s hard … the kids are sick.. you are working your butt off, your boss is a control freak, your partner is AWOL, your legs need waxing and your inbox has exploded. It’s really hard to stay upbeat and...

read more

So Many People To Blame, So Little Time

Blame, blame, blame, blame. I first really registered the notion of blame after I read Brene Brown's Gifts of Imperfection and I watched a Youtube clip where she blames her husband for spilling her coffee on her new suit despite the fact he was on a...

read more

11 Reasons Why Menopause Sucks!

Menopause sucks! There I have said it. Out loud and in public. To be factual, peri-menopause sucks. I am sure menopause sucks too, I just haven’t made it that far yet. How did I get to 48 before I even heard of peri-menopause? Bodily functions were not discussed...

read more

Same Room, Same Doors

Do you ever wake up with a feeling of dread or sit in another pointless meeting and notice the crushing realisation that the life you envisioned for yourself is not the one you are living – or worse still – it IS and you hate it!? How did you get here and how can you...

read more

Advice for Wildly Wonderful Women

Let me give you some advice about advice. Unless you are Oprah don’t dish it out. Hard to understand I know …. Even though your girlfriend, colleague or staff member has specifically asked you a question, they don’t actually need your advice. Go figure! So what are...

read more

Falling in Love with Air Travel…Again

Anyone who travels for work knows that air travel can be soul destroying. A barrage of mind numbing processes - the taxi ride though traffic, queuing to check in when the line snakes out the door, another queue to get through security where the person in front of...

read more

Pesky Restlessness….

How often do you say to yourself… There must be something more? Something different? Something else? So, now what? Scratch the surface of any functioning midlife woman and you will hear her say I love my kids; I enjoy my job, I am grateful for the roof over my head,...

read more

Why I Love Phone Coaching

Coaching is all about relationships, right? Holding space, being present, developing trust, truly listening? Good coaches can spot incongruities between your body language and your true message. Yes, they sure can! So surely face to face coaching is better, right?...

read more

Happy International Women’s Day // 8th March

Positively Beaming believes in the true empowerment of women. This comes from economic equality, reproductive rights, freedom from fear plus, an equal voice and representation in politics, the workplace and in the home. Empowerment, despite what Instagram tells us,...

read more
Silencing Your Inner Critic

Silencing Your Inner Critic

I was curious to hear the other day, and in fact, I heard it twice from two different people, was that one of the challenges that they had when leading their team was that they were the youngest in the group.  I found this fascinating because it was obviously a...

What mountain are you climbing?

What mountain are you climbing?

Anyone who knows me knows that I am not terribly athletic and I really baulk at anything that forces me to go UP in a steep ascent.However, it has become increasingly clear that my role as a coach is to help women climb their second mountain. And I know the way up...

Are you too busy to read this?

Are you too busy to read this?

The irony of this blog is that the women who need it the most will be too busy to read it. The world seems to be speeding up...So much to do.So little time.And women have it worse for a number of reasons. Firstly, we have more neurons firing at any time than men yet...

Do the Work…

"Do the work" she said. Which made perfect sense. If I wanted my business to be successful I had to "do the work". Work harder, be strategic, hustle, market, follow up, focus! Yet the advice came hot on the heals of - you are tired - physically, mentally,...

5 Ideas for Self-Care September

Recognise that self-care is crucial and plan for itGive yourself permission to say No to requests from othersAim for progress not perfectionUse a strength in a new wayBe nice to yourself Self-care is not indulgent. At the most basic level we need to eat well,...

Every Man Should Do This Course!

It’s not very comfortable being a white middle-class man in society at the moment, and I worried that Lead Like a Woman may just be more of the same. But I went home last night and said to my wife, every single leader, male and female should do this course! It was a...

Ask For What You Need

It is hard not to be rocked by the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. It is difficult to fathom what could drive a successful, mature adult to such ends. I have no answers for you except to check-in on your strong friends, the ones that appear to have...

I’m not into this sisterhood shit…

We went around the group one by one. Each of the 25 participants of the Women in Leadership Aspirant Program shared what they had gained from the previous three days. It is fairly typical that the women in the group are moved to tears at this part of the program....

Outta the Box

Our brains are amazing super computers and most of us only use a tiny amount of it’s capacity. Unfortunately,  our brain is also very limited in it’s ability to process the millions of bits of information coming at it relentlessly. As a result we develop neural...

Women in School Leadership – Who and what needs fixing?

This morning as I waited for an appointment, I flicked through the NESLI 2018 YEAR OF WOMEN IN SCHOOL LEADERSHIP white paper and sighed. Firstly, I think it is high time that this topic got some serious airplay and I am glad that the white paper...

Tips for coping when disaster strikes

Recently, I chose not to sweat the small stuff and practice the art of being grateful - but not in the way you would expect. On the eve of Good Friday, my desktop computer went ppffftt - the power supply died and while I managed to send it by ambulance to Dr Gerry,...

What being overwhelmed taught me about happiness

I am the kind of person that needs to know how things work - once. Show me how to fix my car, explain to me how social media marketing works, send me to a workshop to understand time management.  So when I was overwhelmed, I figured I better go do a course....

Goals are the vitamin tablets of the self-help world!

Goals are the vitamin tablets of the self-help world! Apparently, the only benefit people get from vitamin supplements is very expensive wee. Anyone who has set a new year's resolution understands this metaphor. Traditional goals, just like vitamin tablets, rarely...

Doing Ok, Thank you!

Last week I caught up with an old colleague, sparring partner, truth teller and friend. It’s not often you get all of these qualities rolled up into one person but he’s kinda special (just don’t tell him that, he’s already thinks he’s god-like!). I often describe...

Moments of Collective Joy

"You know when you look across at a concert and you realise you're singing the same song at the same time with 2000 other people and that you're happy and the chances are that the 2000 people around you are happy as well?” These are moments of collective joy. In her...

Has Facebook Killed the Annual Chistmas Newsletter?

December 12, 2017 |Jenny Cole Remember receiving these?? “What a busy year it's been in the Blogs household. This year one of my little darlings won the school talent quest, broke an arm and developed a cure for cancer. Her brother tried several new sports being...

I’m NOT a Life Coach – OK?

When I was a teacher, I always hated introducing myself at social events like barbecues. I think there was some sort of shame around you're just a teacher. Then when I became a school principal, I rarely owned up to it because no one wanted to be the...

Don’t try to fix me!!

I get a little annoyed by the self-help gurus and personal growth experts constantly telling us that we need to do something or be something more. Be more focused, be less anxious, be more time efficient, exercise more, set audacious goals and go after...

Spreading Positivity

Spreading positivity – spread that stuff thick! Ok I get it… life’s hard … the kids are sick.. you are working your butt off, your boss is a control freak, your partner is AWOL, your legs need waxing and your inbox has exploded. It’s really hard to stay upbeat and...

So Many People To Blame, So Little Time

Blame, blame, blame, blame. I first really registered the notion of blame after I read Brene Brown's Gifts of Imperfection and I watched a Youtube clip where she blames her husband for spilling her coffee on her new suit despite the fact he was on a...

11 Reasons Why Menopause Sucks!

Menopause sucks! There I have said it. Out loud and in public. To be factual, peri-menopause sucks. I am sure menopause sucks too, I just haven’t made it that far yet. How did I get to 48 before I even heard of peri-menopause? Bodily functions were not discussed...

Same Room, Same Doors

Do you ever wake up with a feeling of dread or sit in another pointless meeting and notice the crushing realisation that the life you envisioned for yourself is not the one you are living – or worse still – it IS and you hate it!? How did you get here and how can you...

Advice for Wildly Wonderful Women

Let me give you some advice about advice. Unless you are Oprah don’t dish it out. Hard to understand I know …. Even though your girlfriend, colleague or staff member has specifically asked you a question, they don’t actually need your advice. Go figure! So what are...

Falling in Love with Air Travel…Again

Anyone who travels for work knows that air travel can be soul destroying. A barrage of mind numbing processes - the taxi ride though traffic, queuing to check in when the line snakes out the door, another queue to get through security where the person in front of...

Pesky Restlessness….

How often do you say to yourself… There must be something more? Something different? Something else? So, now what? Scratch the surface of any functioning midlife woman and you will hear her say I love my kids; I enjoy my job, I am grateful for the roof over my head,...

Why I Love Phone Coaching

Coaching is all about relationships, right? Holding space, being present, developing trust, truly listening? Good coaches can spot incongruities between your body language and your true message. Yes, they sure can! So surely face to face coaching is better, right?...

Happy International Women’s Day // 8th March

Positively Beaming believes in the true empowerment of women. This comes from economic equality, reproductive rights, freedom from fear plus, an equal voice and representation in politics, the workplace and in the home. Empowerment, despite what Instagram tells us,...