How often do you say to yourself…

There must be something more?

Something different?

Something else?

So, now what?

Scratch the surface of any functioning midlife woman and you will hear her say

I love my kids; I enjoy my job, I am grateful for the roof over my head, but there must be something else??

I have a good life – but now what?

There must be something more, something different?

We all fantasise of escaping to a desert island or taking off – Elizabeth Gilbert style – to Eat Pray Love in exotic locations, while the reality is more humdrum. We have commitments, we have families, partners and mortgages. Life goes on, we get up every morning, put one foot in front of the other and get on with it.

But …. The simmering, pesky restlessness remains;

I have forgotten who I am.

I used to paint/write/draw/sew/sing.

I am good at my job but I don’t know if I can do it for 10 more years.

I find time for everyone else, when will it be time for me?

I’m stuck.

So …. now what????

Women often miss the early warning signs of this restlessness and discontent – I know I did. Deciding to bury it with busyness, red wine and mountains of two-minute noodles, until it grew big and punched me in the face leaving me reeling. Feisty and fabulous to foetal position in 24 hours – or so it seemed.

Unlike me, most women (of my friends) know that the ‘So ..now what’ is there, hiding in the corner, but choose to cope in its presence, telling themselves it won’t be forever – I will find myself again when the kids leave home, when the mortgage is paid, filling their buckets with an occasional holiday, drinks with the girls, a good book and a pedicure.

Stuck – Sitting on the runway of their life waiting for permission to take off.

And then there are the brave, the wise and the self-compassionate. They don’t ignore the restlessness, they go get curious, they read, they explore, they revel in the discomfort, they question and seek guidance. They find out what makes them feel whole, they eat, move, sleep and restore. They find their tribe, people who lift them up and nurture. They invest in their own wellbeing and do more of what makes their souls sing.

Restlessness is replaced by contentment and calm. Wanting and longing is replaced by curiosity.

Stuck becomes revolution and evolution – a joyful and fulfilling life.

Sound enticing?

Curious to know more?

So, now what?

There must be something more.

Something different.

Something else.

So, now what?